Men & Divorce – Help for Life After Marriage

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When it comes to men & divorce, help is not as easily available as you might think. Because of the mans traditional role as breadwinner society and the media especially tend to focus on the plight of the woman who often ends up with the kids as well and their financial difficulties and so on and so forth. Nothing against this, but it is not just women who have it rough after divorce these days and I dare say even years ago!

Recent studies have shown that it is actually men who have the hardest time coping after a divorce not women. There could be many reasons for this but a few common problems seen are:

  • Men handle emotional turmoil badly

  • Men often lose custody of children adding to stress

  • Men are often more dependant on the support of their wife emotionally where women have a better network of friends and family to help them

  • Men are often not used to looking after themselves

Not all of these may apply to everyone but the emotional toll on a man after a divorce can cause depression, anxiety and often leads to some seriously foolish actions that come from bottled up feelings and mans greatest asset and liability; the need to do SOMETHING.

This is where men need to stop and think about things. Some men will hit the dating scene too soon without addressing their emotions and others may wallow in depression for a similar reason and that is they do not know how to deal with the whole experience and there is hardly any support for men after divorce.

However if there is one thing men are good at it is solving problems as long as they have the right tools. So in this situation you have to look at yourself and your journey after divorce as a project to work on, you need a plan, you need to investigate things, you need tools be they people to lean on, information of other people in the same situation and so on and from this you can slowly come to grips with this new life because it will never be the same again … but you can rebuild it stronger and with more insight than before.

If you want more help to undertake this task to end the misery of life after divorce then click below to inspect a guide that gives you a blueprint for success.

http://www.loveiscomplicated.info/divorce/

James Fargo
http://www.articlesbase.com/divorce-articles/men-divorce-help-for-life-after-marriage-700294.html

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11 Comments on Men & Divorce – Help for Life After Marriage

  1. zoro on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:05 pm

    2. when we had our first child….z
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  2. Jessenuf on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:07 pm

    3. Just knowing we get at least one more day on this green earth together. She keeps me so happy its hard to pin point a time other than when our children were born.
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    14yrs and still loving each other.

  3. Nicole on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:09 pm

    4. Well I’m just engaged but I know for a fact that the happiest moment will be the birth of our children, whenever that may be.
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  4. Popsfav on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:11 pm

    5. Not a guy but felt I needed to comment. Married 20+years.

    We don’t have kids by choice and most will say that was the happiest day I think, so I felt it important to add another perspective.

    There have been a zillion happy days. After a few years, it’s hard to pick the happiest. Some of the happiest moments were so personal, even if I told you, it would have no meaning to anyone other than my husband and I.

    I think if I had to pick the happiest moment it was many years into marriage when a couple of things happened that can rock a lot of marriages- NO infidelity or abuse, just life issues some marriages don’t survive, most marriages don’t survive or at least weaken. It was the moment I realized- this REALLY is until death do we part- I am not perfect, he is not perfect but there is a day we both recognized we accept each other 100%. Things don’t have to be perfect and all things can be weathered and you can come out stronger on the other side of it if you have TRUE love. We have that- for better or worse, we can’t imagine life w/o the other. Corny? Sappy? Maybe but all marriages have issues and if at the end of the day you can say this is where I truly want to be and who I want to be with, life is good!
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  5. amitabh d on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:13 pm

    6. When she filed for a divorce, it was my happiest moment. :D
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  6. nriattorney on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:15 pm

    7. Every morning when we greeted each other. We stayed married for 24 years.
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    Personal experience.

  7. No Special Agenda on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:17 pm

    8. The first night we were married where the stress of the day was over, and we could enjoy being together signed in a quiet motel, and no one knew where we were off to enjoy married life from that day forward…….( a son being born later added that joy a second time)
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  8. Jdrums09 on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:19 pm

    9. For me it was waking up the next morning
    And seeing how beautiful this woman was
    while she slept..We are separated now..
    But she is an amazing lady just a little mis-guided..
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  9. leslie k on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:21 pm

    10. Having him beside me to hold me whenever I need support or a hand to hold… he is my strength when I am weak.
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  10. jayjay on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 1:23 pm

    11. the birth of our children..
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  11. dev on Wed, 28th Apr 2010 9:03 pm

    12. What was your happiest moment of life after marriage? Need reply from both married and divorced guys.?
    I am getting married soon with love of my life but I don’t know why I am too tensed I hope your reply will help me to figure out clearly post marriage situations.

    What was your happiest moment of life after marriage? Need reply from both married and divorced guys.

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