You are not Alone – Coping With Stress & Anxiety

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The words ‘stress’ ‘pressure’ and ‘overworked’ are increasingly becoming a part of many people’s conversation in our society.  Even worse there are people in the world who take pride in the fact they feel this way and use it as a topic of conversation.  Others unfortunately, are just suffering under great pressure and are unsure what to do with the increasing tension in their lives.  If someone is suffering from great strain in life it is not always easy to see a way out.  This creates a huge amount of pressure and powerful negative emotions which get worse, making even simple decisions become difficult.

One reaction that many people can experience is that of feeling totally alone or even guilty about these feelings that have appeared. These feelings could appear when faced with a difficult situation in life, such as moving house, changing a career, or family challenges.

These are a just a few examples, in reality it is any situation that the person sees as stressful that will trigger these emotions.

These feelings of ‘stress’ or being under pressure are a natural part of the human makeup. Every physically healthy human being on earth has been designed to feel them and for a very good reason.

It is important to know that Everybody feels some anxiety and stress when facing a situation that they are unsure about.

Moving On –  People will experience stress or anxiety in different levels according to their temperament, previous learning or attitude. These feelings are perfectly natural and the person should not be ashamed of them. Feeling weak or wanting to cry is to some males a huge sign of weakness and the feeling of wanting to shout to fight back in an argument to some females may be seen as ‘unfeminine’ and be held in, with the result of the victim being hurt even more.

If a person is to fully understand themselves, it is advisable that they first become aware of how they work with regards to emotions and feelings. When the body or mind produces emotions, there will always be a logical reason as to why, but society has taught us that we should learn to control ourselves, hence we have a challenge.

When a person experiences a situation which causes stimulation, the body will react by releasing various chemicals to allow the person to experience emotion. This emotion could be, wanting to shout or say something. This can be classed as the ‘true self’ instinct – what they really want to do.  The person experiences the situation which causes the emotion, but then as the emotion is released and the urge to shout or say something becomes a desire, the person can then get an overwhelming urge to hold back because they are more concerned with what others may think, or it may hurt the other’s feelings etc.. This feeling of holding back when a person wants to express themselves is called the ‘social self’. The social self has been created to allow us to fit in more effectively. It is a conditioning programme.

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carole delglyn
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5 Comments on You are not Alone – Coping With Stress & Anxiety

  1. Stephen on Tue, 27th Oct 2009 7:58 am

    2. You need help A psychologist would be good. How you find one depends on where you live. See your doctor and he can advise on one he uses. You sounds like you may need medication as well. I have attached like you might like to check out.
    Don’t isolate yourself from friends maybe they can help.
    Above all if you feels suicidal talk to someone, it really does help & can prevent disaster for you & your family
    References :
    http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome

  2. fullofwonder37 on Tue, 27th Oct 2009 8:00 am

    3. Its not rubbish at all and you have already taken the first step to getting it out. I think you should get professional help because you had post partum depression that was never treated. It doesnt take long and it will really help you. Ask your doctor. You will feel better again you just havent gotten treatment for yourself. Do it for your child. Tell your physician about how you have been feeling. Its very common and you can be helped. Its silly just ot wait around to feel better.
    References :

  3. Gloria on Tue, 27th Oct 2009 8:02 am

    4. OMG, I do believe I just read my own story. You are not writting rubbish, this is not a isolated story. From what I can tell, and although I am a nurse and not a Psychiatrist, it sounds like you do have a reason to seek medical attention for depression. I have Major Depression/bipolar depression/anxiety disorder. I had no idea what was going on when it started; but when several serious family issues hit all at once, that’s when I had to be hospitalized and I thank God for that. First, I would sit down your husband, your mother or whoever you feel will listen and understand and who you really feel you can trust and you can count on. Tell them everything and that you need help. Hiding what you are going through is a mistake; and it will only get worse and you will get sicker to a point where you don’t want to go. It is not your fault; our brains are depleted of the chemicals necessary to "feel good" and maintain a good mood. Once I began medication(s), I could not believe how I felt. It was like I saw and felt the sun for the first time ever. Please, their are places you can get help, you don’t need alot of money, even if you go to the ER, they can get you referred to a mental health clinic so you can get the help you need. I know you will because I can feel the love you have for your daughter. Don’t blame yourself for your depression, it isn’t your fault, people who have diabetes didn’t ask for it either and they need to take insulin; so, we are ill with a chemical depletion, and we need to take a chemical to maintain our health as well. I wish you love and will pray for you, you will be the person and mother you dreamed you’d be.
    References :
    my own experience and nursing

  4. monica on Tue, 27th Oct 2009 8:04 am

    5. I like it! You did great journalling – it’s great to really get any war and fears down on paper so then you can look at it, so well done!

    I would highly recommend Byron Katie’s "The Work" for any depression – it is a quick way of self-dialoguing yourself through any and all issues.

    I understand how excerise isn’t solving your problem – your heavy thoughts might be the problem and it is not your fault.

    You discuss feeling heart broken – it looks like you might be really in need of self-love – what is causing you this pain? This would be a great place to really really dialogue with "The Work" – the worksheets are on her website or on youtube.

    Best of luck. You deserve to live your best life and to love yourself so deeply.

    xxx
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  5. Ashfa on Tue, 27th Oct 2009 3:56 pm

    6. depression stress anxiety?
    heya iv always been a depressed person in a minor sort of way but recently ive developed depression; im 21 married and we have an amazing daughter and it sounds all good but for some reason im not. i had the blues when i had her – it was really bad but i was forced to carry on for my daughters sake. my depression has increased over the years and now i feel i cant cope especially with stress. ive always been an anxiouse person. sometimes i think im severly depressed but i know that i cant be cz anyone who is im sure wouldnt even be able to carry on for their daughter right? but then how depressed am i?????? i ve lost all interest in socializing and more or less all contact with my firiends. i never feel happy anymore or if i do i reeallllllly hate myself for it afterwards because i feel like a fool for being happy wen i know that im still depressed for reasons that are still not getting better or situations that are never gonna change.i lose my appetite everyday but then i eat too much at night. i sometimes feel really suicidal and carry the act out in my head over and over agin – it helps. i like songs i can relate too they feel like a friend to me and i share the same feelings like rock but nice rock like greenday 21guns .im not the same person anymore i dont even know who i am i want ME back i need my social life back. i love my daughter sooooo much and shes really the person that keeps me alive inside. i looooove my hubby millllllllllions too but sometimes its hard to adress that felling but i know i do and thats enough to prevent depression from killing the love. when i am stressed emotionally i sometimes get reallly snappy and bitter and its affecting our relationship alot. i cry alot. especially when im alone. daily stresses affect me too like looking after my baby by myself with often help from my partner. but my partners also ill so i looke after him most of the time too. i feel these stresses adding to my depression. i feel helpless hopeless and i dont know what to do . i dont want my baby to c me like this it makes her upset too she feels it too. im thinking of seeing someone like a psychopherapist or hypnotherapist really but how do i find the right person and for a reasonable price . i feel its the only thing that would help right now just to get someone to reveal my inner probs and emotions with my partner thair too so he can understand too. i dont feel i can express my self anymore to people i get too emotional and ive put up a shield for the last year and now its gotten so bad that i feel dead heartless i feel as though i just dont care on the outside so i cant empathize but inside my heart is broken. i feel like im blabbin and all over the place. people say excersise helps and relaxing but hoow can they when the real probs in you r life dont get sorted excersise relief is only temporary and fake . if i can cover it up so well am i really depressed??? i wanna be happy i wanna be abit more free. every aspect of my life right now is doomed i wanna runaway sm nice place with those dear to me and start again and do everything better – i wanna be a baby again or born again…..
    thanks for listening to this rubbish

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